As you begin to embark on your egg donation journey, it is essential to analyze how your family will operate upon your baby's arrival. Pondering over a baby that does not share all your genes can be a difficult emotional hurdle for some couples, but it must be overcome before moving forward.
Listed below are some common parenting fears that couples face (and overcome) about raising a baby that was conceived through the egg donation process:
“He or She Does Not Have My Genetics.”
This is by far the most common concern that couples have. What helps to overcome this fear is by remembering why you considered egg donation in the first place. You desire to start a family.
Keep in Mind That a Family is Made From Four Components. These are:
- An egg
- Sperm Cell
- A Uterus
- A home
With egg donation, you are not providing all of these components, but you will be offering the most significant one of them all: the home. Many intended parents report that their concerns and fears about not having a complete genetic connection quickly fades away when they hold their baby moments after birth.
“I May Not Have The Same Bond As I Would If I Carried The Baby.”
Starting a family through egg donation places you in an exceptional position to bond with your child. You have been bonding with your unborn child for months and years, maybe even before the baby existed. You were working hard towards making his or her existence possible. This early longing and preparation form a firm foundation for love and trust with your unborn child.
“Should I Tell My Child About Their Unique Conception Story?”
This is perhaps the largest hurdle you will have to overcome when you choose egg donation. This is a very personal choice, one that is ultimately yours. However, being open and honest with your child about how they arrived in this world is a good decision. Simply because apart from your partner, other people will be aware of your decision to pursue egg donation. It is better for your child to hear it from you than to accidentally overhear it from someone else.
When you do decide to tell your child, make it age-appropriate and explain it in small doses. This will help them establish pride and trust with you.
If you have questions or concerns about what it’s like to bring up a child who does not share your complete genes, please contact Rite Options.
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